To force someone to have sex without their will.
FOR IMMEDIATE HELP In the United States:
If you are a victim of domestic violence, please call National Domestic
Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
If you are a victim of sexual assault, please call: Rape, Abuse, and
Incest National Network (RAINN) 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)National Sexual
Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) 1-877-739-3895
If you are a victim of stalking, please call:Center for Victims of
Crime, Stalking Resource Center 1-800-394-2255 1-800-211-7996 (TTY)
The Gay Men's Domestic Violence Project Hotline 1-800-832-1901
If you have been raped or assaulted, seek help. Please.
Some things you might not have thought of:
It's okay to make notes. If there are things you need to remember, write it down.
Don't bathe. I know that the first thing that you are going to want to
do is scrub yourself down and stand in a shower for hours, but baby you
can't. You have to get the rape kit done first. This is so the police
can gather evidence. Even if you don't think you can testify- have the
evidence collected. Just in case something changes.
It's not your fault.
Everyone reacts differently to being assaulted. You are allowed to have whatever feelings you have.
Give yourself time to heal. Be good to yourself. A common thread among
rape victims is to punish their body further. Give yourself whatever it
is YOU need.
Seek out help. Rape Crisis, Hotlines, reach out.
Sometimes the first line of responders will let you down. It's tragic
but there are a lot of people who are supposed to be in the helping
business who only make it worse. If you find yourself with an advocate
who makes you feel violated a second time- get another advocate. They
are there to help you, and if they aren't helping you- don't let that
stop you from finding what YOU need.
RESOURCES | LINKS
AARDVARC An Abuse, Rape and Domestic Violence Aid and Resource Collection: http://www.aardvarc.org/
a site is for victims of violence, their families and friends, and the
agencies and programs which serve them, both public and private.
Includes domestic violence, stalking, and sexual assault.
Advocate Web: http://www.advocateweb.org/hope/default.asp
When professionals abuse their trust.
After Silence: http://www.aftersilence.org/
This is an amazing non-profit organization with Message Boards and Chat
Rooms for Survivors. I LOVE their mantra "You are not alone, you are
NOT broken, and you CAN heal."
Breaking the Cycle: http://www.breakingthecycleinc.com/
This looks like another site set up with links... but many of these links really give great information.
CUAV: Community United Against Violence: http://www.cuav.org/index.php
"A multicultural organization working to end violence against and
within our lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning
(LGBTQQ) communities. We believe that in order for homophobia and
heterosexism to end, we must fight all forms of oppression, including
racism, sexism, ageism, classism, and ableism. CUAV offers a 24-hour
confidential, multilingual crisis line, free counseling, legal
advocacy, and emergency assistance (hotel, food, and transportation) to
survivors of hate and domestic violence."
Date Safe Project: http://www.thedatesafeproject.org/index.html
This organization is teaching how "asking first" makes all the
difference in creating safer intimacy and in decreasing occurrences of
sexual assault. They are breaking new ground when it comes to consent.
Department of Justice (US) Office on Violence Against Women: http://www.usdoj.gov/ovw/
This is the site primarily for those in the United States- but there is a great deal of information.
Gay Man's Domestic Violence Project: http://www.gmdvp.org/
One in 4 gay men will experience domestic violence. This site has amazing resources to end this.
Generation Five: http://www.generationfive.org/
Ending Child Sexual Abuse in 5 Generations
Girl Thrive: http://www.girlthrive.com/
For Survivors of Abuse. This site is intended for teens girls who have experienced Sexual Abuse or Incest.
Male Survivor: http://www.malesurvivor.org/
For male victims of Sexual Abuse Men Against Sexual Violence: http://menagainstsexualviolence.org/
Men Can Stop Rape: http://www.mencanstoprape.org/
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence: http://www.ncdsv.org/
National Center for Victims of Crime: http://www.ncvc.org/
National Domestic Violence Fatality Review Iniative: http://www.ndvfri.org/
National Sexual Violence Resource Center: http://www.nsvrc.org/
Pandora's Aquarium: http://www.pandys.org/
Online Support Group for the Survivors of Sexual Violence
RAINN Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network: http://www.rainn.org/
Rape Victim Advocates: http://www.rapevictimadvocates.org/
SARA- Sexual Assault Resource Agency: http://www.sexualassaultresources.org/index.html
Silent Witness: http://www.silentwitness.net/
Women who die from domestic violence
SOAR Speaking Out About Rape: http://www.soar99.org/
Take back the news: http://www.takebackthenews.org/
Truth About Rape: http://www.truthaboutrape.com/
Voices and Faces: http://www.voicesandfaces.org/
White Ribbon Campaign: http://www.whiteribbon.ca/
Men stopping violence