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Questions and Conversations

At the beginning of a sexual relationship, it is not always easy to ask the questions that make that relationship easier. Here are some questions that might help you think about what you want to ask. This doesn't have to be you and a clipboard, checking off things... but if that's what you like, go for it. The main thing is to be able to talk about what you want and what you would like from your partner.

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Are you married and/or in a monogamous relationship?
Are you in a polygamous relationship?
Do you ever smoke?
Do you do you partake of alcohol or drugs?
What are your expectations?
What is your experience?
What are some of your experiences?


Do you feel you are an experienced partner or do you feel like there are things you have to learn?
Do you orgasm regularly and/or often?
Important to ask women partners!: What is the easiest way for you to come?
Is there something (like tickling) that always makes you uncomfortable?


What is your Safeword?
I really love the profile you can create at Bondage dot Com... they have a huge list of all sorts of possibilities....


What form of birth control and STD prevention do you use?
Are you allergic to latex?


Do you want to come in my mouth?
When you come in my mouth, would you like to have me kiss you afterwards?
Do you like fingers in your ass?
Do you like anything else in your ass?
Do you like like to have anal sex?
Do you like your nipples kissed? Bitten?
Do you like nipple clamps?
Do you like clothes pins?
Uncirmcumsized: pull back the foreskin and/or cover the tip?
Clit question: suck, lick and/or kiss?
Do you want to be tied up?
Do you want to to tie me up?
Do you like giving spankings?
Do you like being spankings?
Do you usually need more lubrication?
Does twisting, groping or pulling your breasts hurt?
After sex: talking/no talking?
How do you feel about being given directions during sex?